Friday Jams

The first time I saw The Princess Bride was when I was visiting my Aunty Karen and Uncle Dennis down in Plano Texas. My flight had been uber delayed and I think we rolled into the driveway around 2am or so. Long day. I woke up the next day to Aunty making breakfast burritos (my first) and my cousin Paul had some of his friends over and the show was just starting. Uncle gave me a tray and said I needed to get in there and see this movie.

He was right. That was about 25 years ago. Yikes, time flies. How is it when I watch the movie now I feel as young as I did being spoiled in Aunty’s home for a whole weekend??? It remains to this day one of my all time favorite movies. True love; loss; betrayal; mistakes; anger; snarky villains; Billy Crystal, I mean come on!

One of my favorite scenes is when the Man in Black argues with Princess Buttercup. She screams, “You mock my pain!” And the Man in Black comes back with, ‘LIFE is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.’

Good point. Of course we now know that the (SPOILER) Man in Black is her true love, Westley which we find out when they’re flying down the hill. That was funny. Life is pain. Sometimes, yup. A big pain in the arse. But as we watch our heroes ride away on white horses we realize that if we each have the courage to face it, we’ll be rewarded. Sometimes it takes courage to love, even if it is true love. To sincerely apologize, scary stuff. To take in your actions of being unloving and admit then to another. Scary. FoShizzle.

Sometimes it’s met with warmth, sometimes it’s not. But that doesn’t mean we don’t summon the courage to try. That’s all we can do. It’s taken me too many years (and I STILL fail at recognizing it at times) to realize that all we can do is state our feelings if we’ve been hurt by others’ actions. How THEY take that info and deal with it is up to them and NO reflection on us. I hate when I forget that. Ultimately, what others do is out of our control. Maybe that’s why it’s so hurtful. We put more meaning into how we’re treated than we should? We don’t recognize issues others are dealing with and just assume that our value is lower than we wish it to be? Dunno.

All we need to know about love is covered in The Princess Bride. Heh. And from a few friends plopped into our lives. Like this one, I’m going to write a note I received from a dear friend. I’m changing the names because it’s personal, but it’s a good one.

I have found the more I forgive, the easier it becomes. 

The more I forgive the less scary challenges become.

The more I forgive the more I find myself praising “Partner” for all the wonderfulness that is her.

Love is an amazing and powerful thing! Always believe in love and each other…

I hope you have people like this in your life, I’m so thankful I do.

Enjoy your weekend.

It’s not my fault for being the biggest and the strongest. I don’t even exercise.


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For training opportunities at tosabarbell, call or text Juli at 320-296-9313. e-mail to At tosabarbell, I build relationships cultivated in a strength and learning environment. There is no 12 week magic pill program to strength but rather a lifetime commitment to be the very best and most useful human you can be. tosabarbell is a private, home grown gym with three lifting platforms; squat rack; prowlers; throwing implements; bars, bumpers and everything else needed for an effective strength and conditioning program. Straightforward barbell programming including the Olympic lifts; sound (read: not fancy bullshit) diet advance for weight gain or loss; and strong coaching will ensure you will meet your goals such as becoming stronger, more explosive, and better conditioned. I have been coaching teams and athletes for over 30 years. I grew up participating in various sports at various levels but was always drawn to those that require strength training. I have multiple local, national, and world records in the sports of Weightlifting and Highland Games Heavy Events as well as a combined total of 5 World Championships. My 5 years of training and coaching under Mark Rippetoe provided a wide range of influence from some of the top strength & conditioning and throwing coaches in the country. I will strongly encourage tosabarbell athletes to compete (and prepare you to do so.) However, tosabarbell is also for those who wish to be stronger and go through life feeling better. Matt WanAt is a retired Professional Strongman who competed frequently with Strongman Champions League in Europe. He played a year of D1 football with Iowa before concentrating on his Chemical Engineering degree in Iowa City. He is a native of Wauwatosa and still remains a staunch supporter of Tosa East. This blog will be a mixture of strength notes, coaching and nutrition tips, personal shit; bacon delicacies, and a whole lot of fun.
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