Ever look up to someone? Look up to them while thinking, “I want to be that guy/gal.” What characteristics draws you to them. They are secure in themselves? Funny? Stronger than you? What do you see in them that you don’t see in yourself?
My cousin Denise’s kids out in Woodinville, WA are two of my most favorite people in the world. Gabe and Carmen have been a staple of love and entertainment in my life even though I only get to see them once a year or so. They live with unashamed joy, and I admire that about them. Of course my cousin and her hubby have something to do with that but Carmen hit the latest homerun so I get to brag on her.
While trying to talk daddy into a final night time game on the I-Pad and getting a stern ‘No’ she pulls this one out…
“Dad, when you were my age and your dad said ‘No’, did you ever wish you had a different dad, one that would say ‘Yes’?” Dad: “Probably.” Carm: “Be that Dad, dad.” Boom.
There’s been a long list of people I wanted to be other than myself through the years. Princess Leia for the obvious reason that she had a dashing boyfriend with a Wookie. I wanted to be the girl across the aisle from me in Accounting class who understood that crap without a blink. There’s always been people with “more” of what I wanted but didn’t believe I had. Be it money, friends, ability, beauty or brains.
It took a while to understand that all I had to do to be like those I admired, was to live a life I admired. Now don’t get me wrong, I fail… a lot! But overall, it’s been a while since I’ve played the “I wish” game.
As much as we joke about not “being that guy”, ya know, the one that curls in the squat rack? We don’t talk enough about ‘being that guy!’ The one you admire and don’t think you can be. Cuz why not? Wouldn’t you rather admire yourself more than others?
The lack of a sense of history is the damnation of the modern world.
Robert Penn Warren